Dating a recovering addict advice
It could be the real deal, or it could end up being a nightmare relationship.The first thing you should know about dating an addict is that he is, in fact, an addict.In working with the spouses and significant others of addicts, I’ve often heard it said, “I’d rather be an addict than love one.” While few people would ever walk eyes-wide-open into a chronic disease like addiction, the statement speaks to the confusion, loneliness and despair common not only among addicts but also the men and women who love them. In fact, addicts who are solid in their recovery can make excellent partners.A history of addiction doesn’t necessarily turn Mr./Mrs. They’ve waged a courageous battle, spending a great deal of time working to take care of and improve themselves.
Also know that love does not conquer all, especially real world problems like addiction.
If you’ve struggled with addiction yourself, be extra cautious – your use can trigger their relapse, and their relapse could spell ruin for both of you.
Left unaddressed, relapse can set in motion a roller coaster of chaotic break-ups and reunification that in the long run only exacerbates the problem.
The important thing is that you find someone who meets your needs.
If that person happens to be an addict in recovery, understand the unique challenges and be ready to meet them. Take some time to review Drug and learn about your treatment options.