Dating a currently seperated man
Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling.
Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean that you should rule him out completely. Dating a man who is going through a divorce or is newly divorced can be a tough challenge.
It seems to me that lots of middle aged women get divorced and stay single. And, older men have interest but that isn’t really fair either. I would like to know your thoughts on the likelihood of 50 year old women finding a second life partner. It’s really funny that I would get this email from you, wondering about dating over 50. Because I’m turning 50 in 6 months, and I’m recently single again. I have had some issues while shopping for clothes in recent years, because all the clothing out there either seems too young or too old for me. again.” The slash between happiness and marriage clearly indicates that you equate happiness and marriage, and that’s something I definitely don’t do. I would ultimately like to be married again (I think) but anyone who reads this blog should know by now that I don’t feel marriage brings happiness unless you wait for the right person and/or the right time.
I might just be feeling sorry for myself but it seems to me that a 50ish woman is somewhere in no-man’s land for a future relationship. So, I guess what I’m trying to say in response to your asking my thoughts on the likelihood of a 50 year old woman finding a second life partner is: I HAVE NO CLUE, I’ll let you know when I find out? Perhaps this same attitude applies when it comes to dating. I equate happiness with: children, family, career, fun and surrounding myself with people I love and enjoy, whether that involves romantic love or not. The last thing I will tell you to do is to slow down and don’t panic.
You’ll need to be extremely mindful of the parenting situation as well as the time that he has to spend with his children.
You’ll also need to figure out where you fit into the picture, as it’s likely that you may one day meet his children.
Jackie, I am approaching 50, and just over one year separated from my husband. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.
As I look forward and begin to think about the possibility of future relationships, I can see that dating over 50 might be difficult. So, not only does a large age range, (let’s say 42-57 perhaps?
Though some men are against marriage, you may find that a divorced man is probably not looking or planning to get married again, or at least not anytime soon.However, there are some things you’ll want to know before dating a divorced man to ensure this is a journey you want to go on. Before getting into a serious commitment with a divorced man, be sure you know where the divorce really stands. In most relationships when you break up with someone, you can easily move them out of your lives. This is important in determining whether or not you’re willing to go through with the relationship.The two may still be in contact, especially if kids are involved.During the relationship he may run into old friends who ask about his divorce and his ex-wife, so mentally prepare yourself for that.